Monday Musings: March 26

Good Morning, Monday,

I’m not sure if I want to get up and greet your chill, ignore the labor of your siren song, but I really have no choice. I’m up and writing and working. Shooing children out the door for school, sipping coffee. The lone bird song filters in through the office window sparkling with joy–joy that I am positive you, Monday, did give to her!

Today, I ponder these words by Mary Wollstonecraft in A Vindication of the Rights of Women:

“an unhappy marriage is often very advantageous to a family, and the neglected wife is, in general, the best mother.”(56)

What are your thoughts? Does an unhappy marriage mean we are better mothers?


3 thoughts on “Monday Musings: March 26

  1. I’m not a mom, and most likely won’t be for a while. But I am a wife and when my marriage is struggling, so goes every other aspect of my world. When walking through marriage mess, I become less effective at work, distanced from friends, careless in the big and small. Preoccupied, totally. And so I struggle to grasp what Mary Wollstonecraft means here . . . but looking forward to reading more comments and hearing different perspectives on it.

  2. Those words make me very sad because they seem born of the idea that a woman cannot be a good wife and a good mother at the same time, and that a man cannot love and be an attentive husband and father either. In marriage, the responsibilities of family overlap. They are not roles to be separated. Husband, wife, father, mother, it shouldn’t be like each of those is limited by definition and responsibility because as a family you are together. Working together in the way that works best for you and not the way others would have you, that is one of the major issues still raging today. This whole idea that men and women should behave in a predetermined manner that dictates who does what and what happiness or satisfaction should look and feel like, that is the recipe for disaster. It’s like taking pegs of all shapes and sizes, and telling them they should all fit within the same size hole or they are wrong.

  3. Does an unhappy marriage mean we are better mothers?
    No! How could it?
    Maybe it did at one time, but I can’t fathom that would be applicable today.

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